Friday, May 28, 2010
Friday, May 21, 2010
She's perfect. Dark hair with hubbie's nose. She seems to have taken after his side completely which given our pregnancy history is just amazing. We are utterly smitten.
Her name means "pure unmerited favour of God". On the blog she will be Blossom but if anyone wantes to know her name please feel free to email me!
(Sorry but!) labour was pretty fabulous considering. We have just under 10 half hours of it and it was all natural. I did have a ittle gas in the last couple of centimetres of dilation to get me there.
The obstetrician and midwife thought we were amazing BUT it was honestly down to the method we used for labour (plus God of course!). We cannot recommend it enough. It's the Bradley Method or Bradley Way (or "husband coached birth"). It's all about relaxing your body around the uterus. Not easy and we practised for months beforehand. You also do stretches and practise squatting which is for the pushing stage. All this meant I had only 3 stitches.
Gotta say the physical sensation was mind blowing. And not always is a good way. That head moving down through the cervix and down and out is soooo scary.
So here she is!!!
I am home and am just loving getting to know my little girl. God is so good!
Monday, May 17, 2010
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Well here I am. Heavy and waiting. Well, so is everyone else around me (haha!) I have learnt to preface phone call conversations with "Hi, I am not in labour..". Have given my hubbie a couple of heart attacks before that little gem sank in.
I have been unable to follow the midwife's advice of cutting out all sugar and carbs to stop baby girl putting on more weight. May as well cut off my supply of air when you tell me to stop eating fruit and chocolate.... So I have tried (honestly I have!) to cut down but I can't cut it all out.
I have nested myself into a coma. Things sparkle around here. Although strangely enough, just some things. Not the whole house. The inside of the fridge looks like a sterile laboratory at the moment so I keep looking at it. It's pretty! And have organised myself and the house and tidied up a lot. I like it and I won't apologise for my compulsion...
And well, not much else to say. Hmmm (sound of fingers drumming on desk..).....
Will see what the midwife says today. Praise Jesus we decided on a "shared care" option with an OB and midwife [ in NZ pregnancy and birth care is free when you go with a mid wife. This is an area where the health care system is fabbie] as the OB will let me go a week over and the midwife would not. My age and the fact it's an IVF pregnancy mean they get nervous when you get near to your due date. Our OB is super relaxed and really nice and said he will overide the mid wife, yay!
Having said all that, am not keen for another week and a bit of this. Praying hard that labour happens soon. Like as soon as I finish writing this post. Oh yes, and could it be painless and really fast too???
Monday, May 10, 2010
Saturday, May 8, 2010
Add that to the negativity spoken about the transition from one child to two... and I have decided to shut my ears.
- I am not going to allow my midwife to talk a level of pain she describes as "agony" into my labour.
- I am not going to have a ginormous baby and struggle to birth her.
- I am not high risk and will automatically be induced.
- Labour is not horrendous for everyone.
- Rupi is not going to regress in all areas due to another child.
- I will be able to cope with two children and my little business.
This is a blessing, not a curse! I never thought I would be here and refuse to have all the joy sucked out of the experience.
Yes, baby girl is big at 3.8kg (estimated) already. But as a friend said, bigger babies help birth themselves and cope better after birth.
Yes, labour may be hard but I want to start out thinking that I can do this!
Yes, we will have to make room for Rupi to adjust, he's just little. So making room is about providing one-on-one time for him and some new things to make life special for him. We got him a little slide today and he loves it. Super cute!
I am so excited about the next couple of weeks. Imagine! Barren girl with TWO children!!!! How wonderful is our God?!?
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Honesty and openness inspires me. This post by McMama's husband is brutally honest. This couple have come under huge fire in the blog world. They have never pretended to be anything other than they are- mortal and imperfect Jesus lovers and the enemy has come against them with a vengeance. They must be onto something good for God!
Another incredible open and honest person is Nicole. She rocks. Her posts are raw and real. You see right into her heart.
I used to be a very open person, very honest I suppose. But life wore me down and reactions to things I shared put me off. So I withdrew and now only share parts of me. My fault? 100% yes.
We don't always get the reaction we expect when being open and honest. And that should not stop us. King David was open and honest and suffered for it. He was mortal and imperfect. And yet, was called a man after God's heart. I think it was partly because of his honesty in not hiding himself from man and from God.
So my challenge (to me) is to be more open and more honest. And have no fear of man's reaction or consequence!
Sunday, May 2, 2010
I am full. Replete.
She reminds me of her individual presence contantly. Squirming, moving and shuffling. I press a little elbow or knee back and she moves. She hiccups and jumps at her brothers noises. She is her own little person. Unique and created in the image of God.
I am waiting to meet her now. And I am not impatient. As God breathed life into a cluster of cells and watched over her as she grew, He will guard her journey to the start of her days on earth. His timing is perfect.
I am so grateful.
The apple of my eye is 18 months old today! He is cute, loving, tender, determined, methodical, reserved and I love every last bit of him.
In early July 2008 we stood at my father-in-law's funeral and talked about the loss of that man. We opened up in front of 500 odd people about our struggle with infertility. We would never ever have guessed that in under two years we would have two children. It's hard to believe when you are in pain, but God is truly the restorer. He has restored the years that the locusts ate.
And I will be eternally grateful.