tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280782068170390656.post8198617108348627590..comments2023-10-22T00:04:12.155+13:00Comments on Cherished: Keeping it realSammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12196141425469259485noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280782068170390656.post-39438775599303865952010-10-07T09:19:26.990+13:002010-10-07T09:19:26.990+13:00Oh Cat! I am loving getting to know you! Thanks fo...Oh Cat! I am loving getting to know you! Thanks for the comment, it made my day and gave me a laugh!!!Sammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12196141425469259485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280782068170390656.post-52896133027999836892010-10-07T09:08:39.886+13:002010-10-07T09:08:39.886+13:00AWESOME!!!
always loven' it when ladies get re...AWESOME!!!<br />always loven' it when ladies get real....<br />my motto<br />GET REAL<br />DEAL<br />HEAL <br />SO YOU CAN FiNALLY FEEL!<br /><br />I felt completely overwhelmed with my second, and found myself saying"what have I done"...I did share, but no one seemed to listen, maybe I wasn't communicating properly. Well, except for the Healer of all!<br />lol I remember...getting really personal right now, but I do find it so funny, Mr. B's signal for intimate relations...told you it was personal...would be to light the candles in teh bedroom...I would come in behind him and blow them out!!!!!! LMAO<br />AHHH so good<br />Anyways, what I will tell you Sammy is that this is a season, and will pass as you are experiencing. The best thing we can do is as you did...ask, really ask how someone is ding. They may clam up or they will share, that is their choice and joureny, I am so glad you shared today<br />and oh, um, sorry for the long winded comment!<br /><br />love and lightAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280782068170390656.post-84837654780314942412010-10-05T11:52:17.113+13:002010-10-05T11:52:17.113+13:00Great post Sammy :)
Love that you are sharing abou...Great post Sammy :)<br />Love that you are sharing about this.<br />I have an agreement that I won;t talk about marriage stuff on my blog, but I am totally free to talk about us with (trusted) friends. Would love to cathc upo with you sometimes soon?? Maybe brunch at takapuna beach cafe??? LOL!!Simoneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09554122579485306611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280782068170390656.post-51588748530829649262010-10-04T20:38:18.642+13:002010-10-04T20:38:18.642+13:00Hey Sammy awesome post!
I was just thinking along ...Hey Sammy awesome post!<br />I was just thinking along these same lines myself just days ago. I'm sure many of our couple friends have labled us "struggling" as we often keep it real..maybe too real! to our friends. and yes, it sometimes makes me feel bad, but I've realised just because we are open with our struggles at times doesn't mean we are any worse off than those who don't open up. and hey, at least we are getting heaps of prayer from those that may worry ! haha ;)<br /><br />I also realised how hard I was on myself after my babies were born. I didn't take into consideration the massive effect it takes on our emotional state, hormones etc<br /><br />It is a really hard phase of life, and I only wish now I had given myself and Gooseman a bit more slack. <br />Thanks for your honesty and I'll be praying for you xoxoWidgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16699707227049240330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280782068170390656.post-71981149189261563032010-10-04T19:28:58.405+13:002010-10-04T19:28:58.405+13:00Yes, we need to keep it real more often..honesty w...Yes, we need to keep it real more often..honesty with the LORD and others leads to REVIVAL in our relationship with Jesus. Kevin and I love biblical counseling. I love what your friend said about it not meaning something bad..girl my husband run to the church whenever we are in those hard times in marriage and believe me, thats a lot lol(meno pause, infertility = wack hormones and please dont add SIN issues ..yikes)<br />But because we are committed to this covenant we seek GODLY WISE COUNSEL... there is a link of some GREAT BIBLICAL , GODLY counselors for any one reading this..counseling,I tell you the LORD has used the accountabilty from it to change our marriage. I am praying for you, and LOVE how honest and real you are! Praise God!I totally understand where you are coming from!!<br /><br /><br />Biblical Counselor: (s) <br />http://www.nanc.org/directory.aspx<br /><br />even if no one here needs them...save this link for fuuture use or send to friends :)These Three Kingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09145708956293037220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280782068170390656.post-46273863274665848692010-10-04T17:31:36.189+13:002010-10-04T17:31:36.189+13:00Ahem. Yes. This season is intense and outrageousl...Ahem. Yes. This season is intense and outrageously tough. Many couples I have spoken to will concur that these early years of parenthood have pushed them to surprising levels of crisis. <br /><br />Chronic exhaustion and lack of quality time clouds rich communication. It was the time for us that we travelled on fumes of grace rather than buckets of pure love fuel. But it DOES come right. It is 'normal', be reassured if you need to be. And look forward to the growth that comes when this season passes and you experience a 'spring' with getting to know each other again, only you are each better, more patient people! <br /><br />They say parenthood is to grow the parent, not the child. And I have found this to be true, and to that end, our marriage has had to stretch with the growth.<br /><br />Keeping it real is good, so is laughing about it. One day you will look back and share with someone else how you journeyed out of this space. Be tender with yourself, and with your man. You need a lot of loving right now...<br /><br />Be blessed my friend. Feed your soul with beauty and rest much. You will never work this hard again. xxxAmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00716363448705314532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280782068170390656.post-66922550752484259922010-10-04T17:11:18.734+13:002010-10-04T17:11:18.734+13:00This was a great post. Having more than one child ...This was a great post. Having more than one child definitely put a strain on my relationship with my husband. Like you said, once the kids had taken what they needed it was hard to find anything left for each other. However, our baby is now 10 months old and it is becoming easier to make time just for each other, to laugh and be silly and just BE together. It's a season and seasons pass...you will emerge stronger than you were before, and with a new and better appreciation of each other and yourselves as a couple. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280782068170390656.post-76392289462972297592010-10-04T16:58:17.179+13:002010-10-04T16:58:17.179+13:00Such a good post Sammy - all couples go through th...Such a good post Sammy - all couples go through these times, but like you said, so many are afraid to share about it because they don't want to be labeled as 'struggling'. All relationships have struggles - let's be honest. Thankfully in marriage there is that security that you will stick together and work through it (although these days sadly 'marriage' doesn't mean that anymore).<br /><br />Keep it real girl - so many will be encouraged by this!PaisleyJadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05497053121360068116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280782068170390656.post-1281172848763654312010-10-04T15:05:22.283+13:002010-10-04T15:05:22.283+13:00Great post Sammy!
I am thinking back! Those inte...Great post Sammy! <br /><br />I am thinking back! Those intense times do happen and come and go in ebbs and flows.. Parenting in it's early stages right through to forever will add another dimention to marriage relationships for sure.<br /><br />MJ and I definitely had some times and still do where it feels so hard - and the giving to the kids is constant and to each other there seems to only be "leftovers" - but as you say, they are short periods. They are because of tiredness etc.... not because we are failing in our relationship.<br /><br />I remember talking stuff out with close friends and at my mothers group to an extent (making sure that it doesn't become a hearing for the dirty laundry!!).<br /><br />I really had to lean into MJ when the kids were babies... we didn't have a lot of family help around us. Those first few years are exhausting and add the pressure. No doubt about it!Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06338253666992441869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8280782068170390656.post-25814858805043988482010-10-04T14:18:40.278+13:002010-10-04T14:18:40.278+13:00Great post Sammy! Thank you for keeping it real! ...Great post Sammy! Thank you for keeping it real! I'm due in about 5 1/2 weeks with our 2nd so I know we have an adjustment time ahead of us. I learned a long time ago that counseling doesn't necessarily mean you have issues, but that you want to have a strong marraige. I know many couples that go to counseling just to keep things going good. We haven't done it ourselves, but I'm never opposed to it. I'll be praying for your family!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com