Friday, January 23, 2009

Egg donor IVF counselling

Just got back from one of the mandatory counselling sessions at my fertility clinic. With egg donation IVF cycles counselling is mandatory in the 3 month stand down period. The stand down period is so that the donor can have time to reconsider their decision.

Again, how do people do this without God? The questions we talked about were huge and so much bigger than when it was just my hubbie and I doing an IVF cycle. Because even though we don't have to consider the donor after the eggs are collected, of course we will.

Questions like:
  • What if the baby had a terminal condition that threatened my life during pregnancy? We are so pro-life it's not funny, but now we have Rupi to consider. The decision we would normally make would possibly rob Rupi of a Mommy. So huge.
  • What if the pregnancy went so badly that doctors said I could not have another pregnancy without putting myself and the baby at risk? What about any frozen embryos that remained?

In normal IVF cycles the above questions are not even discussed! Funny. But here we are facing massive issues and questions. Plus the thought of another IVF cycle sends my nerves into the stratosphere. Let's say that I do not have fond memories of the 3 cycles that have gone before...

Plus I am more than aware of the opinions may Christians hold about egg donation. I shouldn't care as we have prayed and fasted and know God's will for us in this, but I guess I worry about judgement with the kiddies. I just need to calm down and find my Jesus. Another quiet time is in order I think!

Breathe breathe....

So anyway, we wait for one of us to get our period and then we align our cycles with the pill (rather ironic huh?!?) So sometime in Feb it all kicks off. Then it should be 8 weeks after that to a pregnancy test. Breathe breathe...!

***To all those in my actual physical life, Equippers buddies and friends***

Please please please don't talk specifics with people unless you know they read my blog or are very close to me. If in doubt please don't talk about it. I just need the space to get through the (please God) first trimester as this is the time I miscarried before. Then I will bring out the balloons, whistles and streamers and throw a party! I really want to share about this on my blog but also need the anonymity in my physical life. Hope I am expressing myself ok. Love you xxx

So yes. Here we are. Another IVF cycle looming. Fun fun fun.

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Janna said...

I think the waiting is the hardest part because it brings up all the questions again. My husband and I have had similar quesitons due to the fact that we plan on doing surrogacy (which many christians have opinions about). I have no idea how I could make decisions like this without the Lord. I have found so much comfort in this verse: 1 Samuel 16:7 "The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward apperance, but the Lord looks at the heart."

I pray you can stand firm and have unshakable confidence in the decision you and your husband have made, knowing that this is where Jesus has lead you.

Sammy said...

Thanks Janna, what encouragement. I am so glad to be in touch with other Christians facing similar issues to us xx

penny said...

Praying with you all the way. Love you xx

nancy g said...

I hope that God will bless you and me too. Going through a tough time but that is what God wills for me. I am in the beginning stages of donor egg ivf. I 've had iui's,ivf's,miscarriages over the last 6 years. I'm 43 now and 44 next month. Time is running out.
God Bless.

Nancy G

Sammy said...

hey Nancy, nice to meet you!
Will be praying for you as you go through the cycle. Please keep me updated if you can

nancy g said...

Thanks for writing back. I'll let you know as soon as the insurance policy info gets ironed out.
Thanks again and God bless.

Nancy G

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